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Bizarre Amish Custody Case Drags On

How's this for the ingredients to a bizarre story: single young Amish lady  in Iowa has a tryst with an older married English man.  Tryst produces kid.  Young Amish woman then marries Amish man and becomes devout member of the church.  The kid then becomes a rope in a cross culture tug-o-war between the non-Amish father and the Amish mother.  The mother doesn't want the child to have anything to do with the father, citing the difference between their values and his (um...didn't SHE have an affair with a married man?  Seems both the Amish woman and English man have a values problem).  Anyway, the case landed in court and here's the latest developments.


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I guess I'm in the minority here, because I can understand why it would be difficult for her to try and raise her daughter within the Amish faith while exposing her to her biological father's outside world. Of course it seems that everyone here automatically assumes that the woman knowingly had an affair with a married man which may or may not be the case. Obviously there is more to this story and just because the dad is 70 doesn't mean that he should or shouldn't be a part of the child's life.

While I agree that both parents made bad choices, they have choosen to go their seperate ways. I think the biggest issue is what is in the best interest of the child not either parent. I mean joint custody is normal in our world, but even so, it is usually the children who suffer the most with the adjustments. 

So can you imagine the diffificulty and possible stigma for the child is she is forced to live a life with one foot in both worlds? Ummm, let's be Amish for 11 days and then an Englischer for 3 days and around and around it goes.

I just can not see any possible way that forcing a child to lead two lives that would be so opposite in world views would be good for her!

Pam

 

 

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  This story has to have more to it. This woman had a sexual liasion with a man outside of marriage which is absolutely verboten in the Amish faith as it is for any Christian. It does not matter whether she knew he was married or not, the point is that he was not her husband. The Bible states that sexual relationships are for the married alone, and all else is considered fornication. Now given this, either this woman was not a baptised member of the Amish church when it occurred or she has since made a confession of her sin before the congregation and asked forgiveness.  Where was she when she was pregnant with the child? Didn't she realize that there would be repercussions? Yes, it would be nice if the biological father would go away, but it looks like in this case that is not happening. She has to face the consequences and work something out with the child's father. Susan

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The story is really weird. I think this lady is trying to forget the past and ,of course, it is not that easy. This woman's Amish faith should be informing her that although a Christian is forgiven sins, the consequences of those sins must be dealth with. This woman sinned, and the result of that sin is this situation. I am not sure this is the whole story since it makes no sense. Susan

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GOD BLESS YOU

Well, why don't you get out the Scarlet Leter for her to wear???

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OMG! Not to mention that the biological dad is 70yrs old and she, the Amish lady is 34yrs old. Gee, whats wrong with that picture? I think she should allow the daddy to visit and spend as much time as he wants with child, because he his 70yrs old, and one never know what tomorrow will bring for that elderly dad/great grandpa. I am glad that court sided with him.

Re: Bizarre Amish Custody Case Drags On

OMG! Not to mention that the biological dad is 70yrs old and she, the Amish lady is 34yrs old. Gee, whats wrong with that picture? I think she should allow the daddy to visit and spend as much time as he wants with child, because he his 70yrs old, and one never know what tomorrow will bring for that elderly dad/great grandpa. I am glad that court sided with him.

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Oh my goodness. In my opinion, she is being a tad bit "hipocrit". She goes and meets a married Englisher, do the unforgivable by the Amish and most ppl, then comes baby, to make matters worse, she marries an Amish, who did not mind that she was a single mom, then when biological dad wants to have custody of child, she refuses because of moral values. Give me a great break. Someone needs to know some sense into her, or better yet, remind her of how she brought that upon herself.

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