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Re: Courtesy Titles: Important or Overblown?

I was raised in a rather liberal manner I have to admit and went to a hippy daycare hahah. I called my teachers and my own mother, aunts and uncles by their first names up until age 5. My mother actually saw using her first name as a safety issue like if I got lost I would know her name, address, phone #,  etc. It was other adults who informed me that people do not call their mothers by their first names so I stopped.

Strangely enough I always called my father Daddy or Dad. When I entered grade school on up until college I called teachers Mr., Miss, Mrs. and community college some teachers I had preferred their first names be used and others their title such as Professor, or Doctor or whatever. Now I am in nursing school and this university requires that all teachers are called Professor or Doctor if they are one. We do not use Miss, Mr, or Mrs. for them. On the other hand we are also called student nurses not just students as opposed to the students who are not yet in the program. We must also sign SN after our name for student nurse, even on lecture assignments. There are no exceptions. The mindset behind this is that we will desire to have the initials RN, BSN, then MSN, then Ph.D. after it and work harder towards it.

We are taught to ask patients during clinicals what they prefer to be called after we introduce ourselves. I have noticed the disgusting manner in which people in nursing homes are addressed and I won't be doing it. Elderly people should also be addressed as Mr or Mrs and I don't like the tone in which elderly people are talked too. Living in Florida I hear it a lot. Either it's patronizing like they are 2 years old or it's plain rude.

When I moved south from the northeast I started calling everyone maam and sir out of respect for a culture that still prefers that be used for the most part.  

I also call all children Mr. or Miss so and so even if they are infants which some people think is wierd. I answer children's questions with a yes maam or no sir as well, even during social visits.

 My theory behind this is that they will not have to be "taught" to do if they too are spoken to with a title. It will be a reflexive response that they can use later on in life and they won't have to work as hard at remember what's appropriate where like I had to learn.


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